I saw this ‘poem’ posted somewhere today and I just had to share. I loved it. I wasn’t necessarily raped by my dad, but I damn sure could have been. For years, my dad fought me to try to penetrate me, but I never let him. He touched me all he wanted unfortunately, but penetration, HELL NO. I fought with my life while telling him repeatedly at 12-13 yrs old, “I don’t want to be pregnant by you”.
It never happened. I was a FIGHTER.
I’m glad to never have been raped and I hope that I don’t ever get raped. It’s bad enough being molested, being completely violated by a 400lb man and not having any control over the situation. Being penetrated in the midst of that would have surely damaged me further, so I am grateful for that part.
Rape culture is real and it’s not funny. I can’t believe that people completely blame women for why they get raped, and what they don’t realize is that sex is a strong, often uncontrollable feeling for some men. If those men aren’t taught how to suppress their sexual urges and respect women’s feelings and bodies regardless of what they’re SAYING or WEARING, women will continue to get raped, regardless of what they’re SAYING or WEARING.
So, with that being said, here’s the ‘poem’ that I came across. I love the way it’s written.
A lot has been said about how to prevent rape.
Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark, women shouldn’t have long hair and women shouldn’t wear short skirts. Women shouldn’t leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn’t dare to get drunk at all!!
Instead of that bullshit, how about:
if a woman is drunk, don’t rape her.
if a woman is walking alone at night, don’t rape her.
if a women is drugged and unconscious, don’t rape her.
if a woman is wearing a short skirt, don’t rape her.
if a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don’t rape her.
if a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you’re still hung up on, don’t rape her.
if a woman is asleep in her bed, don’t rape her.
if a woman is asleep in your bed, don’t rape her.
if a woman is doing her laundry, don’t rape her.
if a woman is in a coma, don’t rape her.
if a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a ’particular activity’, don’t rape her.
if a woman has repeatedly refused a ’certain activity’, don’t rape her.
if a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don’t rape her.
if your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don’t rape her.
if your step-daughter is watching tv, don’t rape her.
if you break into a house and find a woman there, don’t rape her.
if your friend thinks it’s okay to rape someone, tell him it’s not, and that he’s not your friend.
If your “friend” tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there’s an unconscious woman upstairs and it’s your turn, don’t rape her, call the police and tell the guy he’s a rapist.
Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it’s not okay to rape someone.
don’t tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
don’t imply that she could have avoided it if she’d only done/not done x.
don’t imply that it’s in any way her fault.
don’t let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he “got some” with the drunk girl.
don’t perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.
Right on, indeed!